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How Do You Find Your Person?
I had my second appointment with my therapist yesterday, and during the meeting, I, while struggling to find a mature, adult way to frame a problem, burst out saying
I feel like I need a Meredith to my Cristina, you know?
To which she responded “You need a Person?”
“Exactly!”
First of all, can we celebrate how great it is to have a therapist that’s conversant in Grey’s Anatomy? Not only, must I imagine, is this a rarity, but I have a feeling that it will come in handy. (I’m wondering if she’d diagnose me as more of an Amelia or an April, with a little bit of co-morbid Owen.)
Okay, that’s not how psychology works. Not everything can be distilled down to Grey’s references. Another 5–10 seasons, and that’ll be possible. But not now.
I’ve been thinking about friendships a lot lately. I think it’s a side-effect of graduation season. Not just the friends that I’ve had in my past, but the friends that I still have trouble making.
Now, I don’t have trouble making friends in general. I have trouble with a certain subset of friends — specifically, my peers.
I’ve had some great mentors in my life. I have a wonderful mentor right now. A family of my own, made of people who want me around; who…